Best lubes for 9 kinds of sex and ultimate pleasure

Sexual experiences and fantasies are as varied as the people who partake in their glorious pleasures.

We make love, we fuck, we threesome, we onesome. We play with toys, and games, and each other in any position our bodies can contort.

This is your guide to the best lube for any position, pleasure and passion.

To help our bodies interact without pain, there is a wide variety of personal lubricants on the market.

It can be overwhelming when trying to figure out the best personal lubricant for you to use.

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This guide will help you match the best lubes available today with the the sexual activities they are specifically designed to enhance.

In case quickies are your style

Here are quick links to the nine kinds of sex covered…

1. Anal Sex

When we talk about anal sex, we are mostly talking about penis-in-butt sex. There are many things you can stick in your butt and all the other orifices.

We will get to many of them in our sex toy section. But here we are mostly talking about penile anal penetration.

For incredible anal sex, you need to know a little about the anus

• The anus has a lot of nerve endings in it, making it an erogenous zone
• Two sphincter muscles control the opening and closing of the anus
• The tissues of the anal areas are thin and absorb fluids
• The anus is not self-lubricating

Important points about anal sex

• Anal sex should never hurt. If at any point it becomes painful, stop. You can try adding more lube but proceed with caution.
• Without some lubrication, even moderate anal sex can tear the thin anal tissues. Use plenty of lube.
• Spit or thin water-based lubricants will get absorbed by the anal tissues in 1 or 2 minutes, leaving you un-lubricated, and the sex will quickly become far less sexy. Use lube that lasts or be prepared to re-apply…no matter how turned on the bottom, it simply will not get wet on its own. It’s just science.
• Always take precautions to avoid an irritated butt! Never use a desensitizing lube or a lube containing menthol for anal sex. You want to feel what’s going on, especially to avoid damage to the fragile anal tissues.
• Wash out your rectum before anal sex to keep things comfortable and avoid unexpected messes.

Best lube for anal sex

Relaxing the sphincter with anal lubes

The sphincter muscles should be relaxed before penetration. Just like any other muscle, trying to stretch the sphincter muscles when they are tight can damage them. Rimming and fingering are good ways to help the sphincter muscles relax. Of course, there are lubes to help too.

2. Masturbation and Hand Jobs

Masturbation is when a man rubs his own hand on his penis for sexual pleasure. Hand jobs are when a man uses another person’s hand. The average person will make at least one stroke per second. The best experience is when there is a lot of pressure combined with the strokes. All that friction can easily cause a friction burn to the thin skin of the penis. Using a lube during masturbation or hand jobs gets rid of that friction and makes the experience better.

Here are two tips to giving incredible hand jobs:

1. Double the amount of pressure you think you need
2. Double the amount of lube you think you need

Use those two tips and drive him wild. You can even break free from the usual hand job. This article from Astroglide shows you ways to give mind blowing hand jobs with lube.

Best lube for masturbation and hand jobs

Masturbation and hand job lubes are not just hand lotions. These lubes are made for stroking with ingredients picked for his pleasure. Masturbation lubes transform over time from your body heat and the friction. Making the quickie a different experience than the long play time.

Gun Oil Stroke 29
Get ready for some new sensations. Stroke 29 from Gun Oil becomes ultra-slick when it warms up to your body. Trust me, you feel when that transformation happens. Gun Oil even added Vitamin E and Aloe Vera to help protect your sensitive tissues and keep everything feeling soft.
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Other great masturbation lubricants to try

Wicked Sensual Creme Crème Masturbation Cream for Men from Wicked Sensual is perfect for your your private moments. This unique coconut oil-based cream melts to your body into a liquid wonder lube. Enriched with Vitamin E, this lube is sensually stimulating and an excellent moisturizer. Buy on Amazon	Swiss Navy Masturbation Cream The Masturbation Cream from Swiss Navy combines mineral oil and coconut oil. The result starts out as a super-smooth cream. Then, thanks to your palm pressure, friction, and body heat, it becomes a slick, long-lasting viscous sheath. Bringing your personal experience up a few notches. Buy on Amazon
Ride BodyWorx WaterBased When you quickly need to rub one off and go, Ride Bodyworx’s WaterBased lube is your new best friend. This wonder of a lube is infused with natural seaweed extracts including Carrageenan, Nori, and Wakame. It doesn’t dry up quickly or become sticky afterwards. Afterwards, just give it a quick wipe down and you’re on your merry little way. Buy on Amazon	Boy Butter H2O Formula The H2O Formula from Boy Butter is great for masturbation. it’s a water-based cream lubricant with added Vitamin E and Shea butter whipped together. The result is an organic and creamy faux-grease that changes up your personal experience into something new and exciting. Afterwards, it absorbs into your skin, making it a great moisturizer or lotion too. Buy on Amazon

3. Nipple Play

Although among humans, nipple sensitivity varies, men and women do have the same nerve endings in their nipples. The best way to find out how your partner enjoys you playing with their nipples is to try.

The harder your partner’s nipples are… the more sensitive they become. Start by twirling your fingers or tongue on the outside of nipples to get them hard and erect. Then clamp on with your fingers or teeth (slowly and lighty at first. No need to draw blood here). Communicate with your partner to apply the pressure that they like. It may be more pressure than you think. Do it right and you might be able to get them to reach a nipple orgasm. Yes, it’s a real thing.

Best Lube for Nipple Play

Wicked Sensations Ultra Chill ULTRA Chill from Wicked Sensations is a tingling blend of cooling extracts and a silicone base. Up the nipple play ante by placing a small amount of this lube on your partner’s nipples. Rub it in a bit to start. Send them shockwaves of ecstatic delight when you gently blow on the nipples. The warmth of your breathe intensifies the cooling effect and their pleasure. Buy on Amazon

Sensuva Nip Zip Nip Zip from Sensuva is a nipple balm that makes the nipples more perky and sensitive. Apply a small amount to the nipples. In 1 to 2 minutes, they will feel a fun sensation that lasts 20 minutes to an hour. That’s when it’s time to play with their new-found sensations. Give their nipples a lick to taste the strawberry mint flavor, blow, or even try using an ice cube! Buy on Amazon

Oxballs Nipple Suckers

If you’re the type that can’t get enough attention to your nipples… Oxballs nipple suckers are for you. Wet the bottoms of the sucker, squeeze out the air, stick them on your nipples and enjoy!
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4. Oral Sex (Blow Jobs)

Oral sex has been given many names… fellatio, fellation, blowjob, BJ, giving head, sucking off and more. The names mean the same activity, using your mouth or throat (or boobs) on a penis or vagina for sexual pleasure. Of course, this means the pure romance of oral sex involves a lot of tasting and time. You likely won’t spend a lot of time with oral sex if you don’t like the taste of your partner. That’s when flavored lubes are your oral sex friend.

Important points about oral sex

• Making eye contact during oral sex is very intimate and important. Longer gazes have been proven to increase attraction. It’s all about the visual AND the physical.
• Take your time and build anticipation. Apply a small amount of flavored lube and lick it off before starting.
• It’s ok to shift your position and speed. It’s changes the angles and feelings for him.
• Avoid using lubes that contain menthol for oral sex. The vapors can bother your eyes.
• Give it a 110% effort. Change up the amount of pressure and speed to see what he and you enjoy. A tasty flavored lube can help focus your attention and will be good for both of you.

Best lube for Oral Sex (Blow Jobs)

Wicked Sensations Salted Caramel

Give the Salted Caramel flavored lube from Wicked Sensations a big lick! Wicked added subtle natural flavors to enhance your oral pleasures and sweet tooth at the same time. One amazing flavored lube sweetened with Stevia that won’t leave you disappointed.
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Other great flavored lubricants to try

Sliquid Blue Raspberry The Blue Raspberry from Sliquid is glycering and paragen free. Sweetened with Aspartame, this lube is subtle in flavor to enhance, not disguise, your taste. Buy on Amazon

Intimate Earth Wild Cherries Fresh cherries flavored lube from Intimate Earth gives you a delicious taste and scent of cherries. Using organic Stevia as a sweetener, this lube hits both of your senses to add to your oral experience. Buy on Amazon

Be sure to read our list of the best flavored lubes available today.

5. Prostate Massages

The prostate is behind the base of the penis and he loves it when you give it the right attention. It’s about the size of a small plum and makes nearly half of the fluid in semen. The prostate can be massaged either through the perineum or the wall of the rectum. Orgasms from prostate massage are often described as bigger and more intense.

You can give him a prostate massage with your hand or finger. It’s an acquired skill and takes a lot of communication with your partner. Learning how to give prostate massage can add a new experience in the bedroom. Read our comprehensive guide to prostate play to give him an incredibly powerful and long lasting prostate stimulation orgasm.

Most water, oil, and silicone base lubes are fine to use when giving a prostate massage. If you are using something other than your hand to give the massage, a sex toy for example, use a lube that is compatible with it.

Best lube for Prostate Massages

Hands Free Prostate Massages

Aneros Helix Syn
The Helix Syn from Aneros stimulates a man’s prostate without using your hands. Making it convenient and discreet. It’s anatomically designed to be a perfect fit for him and hit the right spots. The hands-free freedom lets him explore new sensations in many positions.
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6. Rimming

Rimming is known by many different names… anilingus (mis-spelled as analingus), rim jobs, tossing salad, and eating ass. Whatever you call it, rimming is using the tongue, lips, and teeth to stimulate your partner’s anus. It’s a very sensual and intimate practice for both people. Rimming may also be used as humiliation in a dom / sub scenario.

Important points about rimming

• Rimming is a great form of foreplay before anal sex. It helps relax the sphincter muscles and gets the rest of the anus ready.
• Be sure the bottom is clean before rimming. A good shower or bath before rimming will help reduce the risk of passing nasty bugs and parasites. An anal douche can give you additional peace of mind.
• Don’t use flavored lubes to cover taste of a dirty bottom. Use flavored lubes to add to the rimming experience and make it last longer.
• Never go from rimming an ass to vagina. Even a small number of bacteria can lead to a urinary tract infection.
• Dental dams can be used over the anus for added protection from disease and distaste. They are small pieces of latex and even available in various flavors.

Best lube for Rimming

Sliquid Swirl Pink Lemonade
Swirl Pink Lemonade flavored lube from Sliquid ads quite a bit of fun to rimming. Aspartame is used to lightly sweeten the flavors. This glycerin and paraben free lube tastes great.
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Other great flavored lubricants to try

Wicked Sensual Cinnamon Bun Flavor their buns with the taste of Cinnamon Buns with this flavored lube from Wicked Sensual. This lube combines Stevia with subtle natural flavors, including cinnamon, for your rimming pleasure. (And any where else you choose to lick it off.) Buy on Amazon

Wicked Sensual Vanilla Bean If you’re looking for a lighter (but still tasty) flavor in your lube, the Vanilla Bean from Wicked Sensual is a great choice. As with their other flavored lubes, this lube is sweetened with Stevia and includes natural flavors. It’s paraben-free and has no aftertaste. Buy on Amazon

7. Vaginal Sex

Let’s get missionary and talk about vaginal sex. The vagina becomes “wet” with natural lubricant when a woman is aroused. The amount of lubrication a woman makes can vary each time. It’s common for women to use lube. A study from the Indiana University found that 58% women use lube during sex. Health factors such and treatments (such as chemotherapy and diabetes) can reduce the amount as well. When you need to escape the threats of painful friction, lube is ready for the job whenever you are.

Important points about vaginal sex

• Read the label on the lube bottle to make sure it’s safe for vaginal use. Some lube ingredients can cause vaginal irritation and even yeast infections.
• Parabens are added to some lubes as a preservative but can cause irritations to some. If you experience a “burning sensation” when using a lube, try using a lube that is paraben-free.
• Coconut oil can be used as a lube for vaginal sex but only use it with polyurethane and polyisoprene condoms. Coconut oil will weaken latex condoms. Learn more at our blog article about using coconut oil as lube.

Best lube for vaginal sex

8. Sex Toys

Sex toys are objects or devices you can use to increase your sexual pleasure. They can be made from a wide variety of materials including silicone, plastic, glass, and steel.

If your sex toy is made with silicone, or coated in silicone, avoid using silicone-based lubricants because it will damage the toy. Otherwise the non-oil based lubes (silicone, hybrid, and water base lubes) will work well.

Best lube for sex toys

Great sex toy cleaner

System JO toy cleaner
Refresh Foaming Toy Cleaner from System JO is perfect for taking care of your sex toys after play time. The gentle formula is designed to get fast and leave no residue on the toy or your hands. Simply apply a foam coating to the toy and leave it on for 10 seconds, then rinse! Rub the foam onto the toy to clear out tougher spots.
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9. Sex in The Water

How does sex in the water sound to you? Super hot right? More steam in the show and more heat in your hot tub. Although water sounds wet, you still need lube…often even more so than on dry land. Water increases the friction during sex. Water-based lubricants wash away too easily in water, making them easy to clean up but poorly designed for shower sex. Invite your favorite oil or silicone-based lubricant to join in the fun of whichever water-based activity you chooser. You and your partner will be glad you brought it along.

Best lube for sex in the water

Picking the best lubes for you

The best way to discover which lubes work best for you and your partner is to try them out. Most lube users have tried different types and brands to decide what they like. Beware of picking the one perfect lube and sticking with it. You run the risk of sex becoming routine. Companies are introducing new lubes all the time. Try new lubes with new experiences to keep sex interesting. Variety is spice of your sex life too.